The Number One Thing You NEED to Stop Wearing to Feel Pretty

The Number One Thing You NEED to Stop Wearing to Feel Pretty! This one thing will instantly make you feel prettier because, in my opinion, you won’t be wearing the weight of everyone else’s opinions. You’ll be free to live in the Creator Mindset from the TED Dynamic and let your amazing qualities shine through. By no longer doing this one thing, it helps you escape the victim mindset, leave behind drama, and take control of your life. I explain it in the video below.

The Number One Thing You NEED to Stop Wearing to Feel Pretty Video

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Get Started with Gratitude Journaling

I’ll probably make a video or blog post on this topic in the future but I have been biohacking my brain to be successful at not giving a f*ck. I started with Dr. Shannon Irvine’s podcasts and AM & PM priming things. I listen to her in the morning and evening and it’s basically an affirmation that tells me I am enough. I’ve been listening to Dr. Shannon Irvine for 6 to 8 months now.

I started gratitude journaling at the beginning of January as a new year, new me type thing. You can get started RIGHT NOW with it. All you need to do is write down or say out loud 10 things you are grateful for. I do this every morning. It somehow works to hack your brain to shift it to be more positive AND to let you shrug off unwanted opinions from others.

I do recommend two gratitude journals that I’ve purchased.

1. 100 Days of Self-Love Affirmations – this is a book by a friend of my friend Brittany from Clumps of Mascara.
2. Zen as F*ck

The Number One Thing You NEED to Stop Wearing to Feel Pretty

I wanted to include a somewhat brief text version of the video above for those people who can’t watch a video with the sound off and closed captioning on right now.

Today I’ve got a different sort of video for you. I wanted to share the number one thing you need to STOP wearing to feel pretty. This is for everyone of all ages, all skintones.

Stop wearing the weight of other people’s opinions on you.

When I’ve been able to do this, to not give a fuck what others think about me and my decisions, it’s been freeing.

Here are some of the reasons why I’ve learned to stop wearing the weight of other’s opinions.

1. You can’t please everyone. This has been drilled in my head as long as I’ve been blogging. You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world and there’s still gonna be someone who doesn’t like peaches. – Dita Von Teese

2. It’s not their life to live. People are going to think whatever they want of you, just as you’re going to think whatever you want of them. We may only have this life to live, and I want to make the most of it.

3. What’s good for them may not be good for you. For example, the keto diet worked for me to reset my bad eating habits. It may not work for you. You may do better with Weight Watchers. That doesn’t mean that either option is wrong, just that you need to do what works best for you.

4. No one else will know what’s best for you. People can offer you their opinions, solicited or unsolicited, but at the end of the day it’s still your choice. Make choices from the empowered Creator position. If you’ve never heard of the Empowerment Dynamic or the Power of Ted, I highly recommend it. Once I moved out of the victim mindset and into the creator mindset I’ve been happier.

5. Life is too short and worrying what others think will keep you from achieving your dreams. If you’re always worried about ‘will I offend X person?’ you will miss opportunities to allow you to shine.

6. Other people don’t care as much as you think. Most people are pretty self-centered. So unless your decision is going to directly impact someone else, they’re unlikely to lose sleep over it.

so if you’re like me and you have anxiety and you’re wondering, HOW THE FUCK DO I GET STARTED WITH NOT CARING ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK? Let me enlighten you as to what my therapist has shared with me.

1. The negative things that people say says more about them than it does you. Those people, often they are narcissists, get off on putting others down. It’s the only way they feel good about themselves. They’re small people who aren’t going places. I feel bad for them that they have to get off on putting others down online.

2. Work through the worst case scenario. What’s the worst that can happen? Then think about the best case scenario. What’s the best that can happen? My bestie Carlye has been great about helping me with this mindset shift to thinking ‘what’s the best that can happen?’ and working from there. Normally I determine even the worst case scenario isn’t death, so it’s bearable.

3. Get rid of negativity but don’t do toxic positivity. If you see people in your life who are toxic and abusive, cut them out or remove yourself from the situation. It’s on those toxic people to change themselves, not on you. We can’t force anyone to change, we can only change ourselves.

4. Find a few people you trust as a sounding board. I have very few people in my lives that I trust their opinions, but I do bounce my thoughts off of them to see if I’ve covered every angle. I know those individuals love me and are not judgmental.

5. Accept that some people are always going to dislike you and there’s nothing you can do about it. Stop worrying about it and wearing the weight of their opinions.